5 Things I Want my Clients to Know

5 Things I Want my Clients to Know

Therapy can feel a bit mysterious, can’t it? You walk into a room, or join a video call, start talking about your thoughts and feelings, and someone listens, nods, and occasionally takes notes. But what’s actually going on behind the scenes? What do therapists like myself really want you to know?

1. You Don’t Need to Have It All Figured Out

A lot of people think they need to come to therapy with everything neatly laid out, the right words, the full story, or a clear idea of what’s wrong. Honestly, you don’t. Therapy isn’t about being organised, it’s about exploring what’s confusing or unclear. If you’re feeling lost or unsure where to begin, that’s completely fine. Your therapist doesn’t expect you to have the answers. You’ll work them out together and think of it as a journey.

2. It’s Okay to Feel a Bit Awkward

Talking to someone new about personal stuff can feel strange, even uncomfortable. You might worry about saying too much, not enough, or the “wrong” thing. I often tell my clients this and I think it helps. It takes time to build that relationship. That’s totally normal. Every therapist expects those first few sessions to feel a bit awkward. You can even say it out loud, “This feels weird” and that honesty actually helps build trust faster. Over time, the space will start to feel safer and more natural.

3. We’re Not Here to Judge You

Therapists have heard it all, the anger, the guilt, the secrets, the shame. Whatever you share, you won’t shock them. Their job isn’t to criticise or tell you what’s wrong with you, it’s to understand and help you make sense of things. Therapy is meant to be a space where you can be completely honest, without fear of being judged. That’s where real change starts. We all need a safe space to feel heard.

4. Progress Doesn’t Always Feel Like Progress

Some weeks therapy feels amazing, like everything’s clicking. Other times, it feels heavy, frustrating, or like you’re going backwards. That’s normal too. Healing isn’t a straight line. Often, the biggest shifts happen quietly, between sessions, or when you suddenly notice yourself reacting differently to something that used to set you off. Trust that even on the hard days, something is still moving.

5. You Know Yourself Best

As a therapist, I have training and experience, but you’re still the expert on you. The best therapy happens when you work together as a team. If something doesn’t feel right or helpful, it’s okay to say so. You can ask questions, suggest different approaches, or explore new directions. Therapy works best when you take an active role in it. I welcome your collaboration at all times! :)

Final Thoughts

Therapy isn’t about being “fixed”. It’s about understanding yourself better, learning new ways to cope, and giving yourself the chance to heal.

Your therapist wants you to know that showing up even when it feels tough is incredibly brave.

And if you ever wonder what I am really thinking, it’s probably this: you’re doing better than you think. :)